Gottman Method therapy focuses on strengthening relationships by enhancing communication, understanding, and intimacy between partners. It is based on research conducted by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and emphasizes building friendship, managing conflict constructively, and creating shared meaning in the relationship.
This form of therapy can benefit couples by providing practical skills and strategies to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and deepen emotional connection. For example, it can help a couple facing communication challenges learn specific techniques to listen actively, express emotions effectively, and validate each other’s perspectives.
A couple’s therapy session that uses the Gottman Method typically starts with the evaluation of relationship strengths and areas for growth using structured assessments and observations. We then work with both partners to teach research-based skills and exercises to enhance their friendship, manage conflicts using healthy communication patterns, and nurture shared goals and values. Techniques such as the “Soft Start-Up” for discussions, the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” for conflict resolution, and the “Love Maps” for understanding each other’s inner worlds may be used. Throughout this therapy method, we provide guidance, feedback, and support to help both partners implement these skills in their daily interactions and create lasting positive changes in their relationship.
Brené Brown
“We cannot selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”
